You hate your job, but you stay because everyone would think you were crazy to leave such a “secure” career.
You’re miserable with the way your life is going, but you continue going through the motions, doing the same thing day in and day out because that’s what everyone around you is doing.
You pass up opportunities because when seeking the opinions of others, you allow yourself to get sucked into their fears and limiting beliefs.
Listen, I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to want to meet the expectations of others. I understand not wanting to rock the boat of ruffle any feathers. I WAS that girl who constantly denied herself permission to pivot.
But guess what….
You will never experience freedom, success, or happiness as long as you continue to seek outside validation from people who have not been where you’re trying to go.
I’ll say it again for the peeps in the back!
“You will never experience freedom, success, or happiness as long as you continue to seek outside validation from people who have not been where you’re trying to go.”
Permission to Pivot, Please…
A tough pill to swallow, I know.
At some point, we have to make moves in alignment with our gut. We must explore what life could be like if we gave ourselves permission to pivot. When it comes to success, we have a fiduciary duty to define it for ourselves. We have to accept the fact that the people we’re surrounded by can’t possibly help us reach happiness in our lives when they themselves have not discovered happiness.
Did you know that the most successful people in the world operate outside their comfort zones, ignore naysayers, take risks against their friends and family members’ advice, and now they live lives that those who cautioned them can only dream of.
They understand that they were operating on a completely different wavelength than those who allow their lives to be dictated by false evidence appearing real AKA F.E.A.R.
They understand that those with a scarcity mindset and a fixed mindset could not possibly relate to or understand a person with a growth mindset.
When people say to them, “You might fail. You might lose all your money. It may not take off.” All they hear is fear, lack of confidence, and lack of faith. They can’t relate, sis.
The happiest, most successful people in the world try new things and fail far more often than their unsuccessful counterparts. It is through that failure that they discover their true potential. The adversity they face reveals traits that would have never been uncovered had they not taken a chance on themselves.
Here’s the icing on the cake:
When a situation no longer serves them well, they PIVOT. They don’t care how it looks to the outside world. They do what’s best for them.
Oftentimes, we are so consumed by what others may think of us that it paralyzes us and stunts our growth.
I challenge you to not give a f%&k, sis. Excuse my French, but I’m serious. I challenge you to not give a second thought to how YOUR LIFE decisions may affect other people.
Here’s the thing…
If they don’t pay a bill or if they’re not in charge of your salvation, then the amount of consideration you should give to their unsolicited opinions should be EXACTLY ZERO.
Ask yourself, “What’s the worst-case scenario?”
“In the pursuit of my dreams, if the worst-case scenario is short of death, I’m going all in! Boobs to the wall!”
Show me how you show up for your goals and designing the lifestyle of your dreams and I’ll show you who you are.
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